I was thinking about the sweet spot last night, and I discovered another way to connect with it. I have no idea if it makes a difference for the leader, but it certainly changes my perception:
When dancing in close embrace, I find the sweet spot. I focus on it. Then I pay attention to my hand on the leader’s back. I imagine hot energy connecting the sweet spot and my hand, through the leader’s torso. Suddenly, the entire embrace feels stronger and more connected.
Maybe it’s just a game for my imagination, but it worked every time I did it.