In case you hadn’t seen, Clay in Portland has set up this survey for “Why I Quit Tango.” You can set up filters for viewing the survey results, which I found very useful for looking at my local community. Ever wonder why some people drop out of your community? This offers at least a small collection of responses.
My own community had some unsurprising results: Critical or rude partners, too elitist, too cliquish, unbalanced ratio of leaders/followers, and too serious. I think this could describe pieces of any community, but it is a reminder that people have a lot of social reasons for staying in the community or leaving it. I find it hard to strike a balance between selfish enjoyment of my evening at a milonga and pushing myself (out of my introverted comfort zone as well as my desire for nice dances) to be welcoming and friendly to newcomers. Interestingly, the people from my community who responded to Clay’s survey had been dancing for several years already—so it isn’t just about noticing the new faces.
Anyway, food for thought.
P.S. I haven’t had a lot of time lately for thinking about my blog. I managed to dance several nights in a row last weekend and take a fabulous private lesson, but the rest of my time was taken up with work, homework, and some freelance jobs! It is a good kind of busy, but wow has it made a difference in how I see my free time! I am off on Thursday for my vacation, where I plan to avoid my computer as much as possible. 🙂 See you all on the other side.