I have been following Mtnhighmama’s thoughts about the cross. I’m really picky when practicing with leaders – I make sure that I don’t ever cross unless I feel the lead. I really, really don’t want to get into the habit of automatically crossing. But in a milonga, with leaders I know well … I have trouble deciding what to do.
If I know that a particular leader always tends to cross at a certain time, and I miss his lead into a cross (maybe it didn’t happen, maybe I didn’t notice it), I feel like an annoying follower. Milongas have different expectations than practicas. I want to help make things flow in a milonga. If I find myself missing a cross with a leader who I know, sometimes I end up anticipating and crossing where I think he wants one but isn’t giving me a very clear lead. But I have been in that situation where I felt a lead into a cross and the leader did not intend it, and that’s a sticky place to get out of.
Question for the followers: Do you ever try to “help” like this, at least with leaders who have tendencies that you know well? (Not crossing automatically all the time, but going into a cross when the lead feels a bit ambiguous and you know this leader tends to lead a cross at that point.) Or do you only ever follow a clear lead?
Question for the leaders: In a milonga, would you prefer followers to “help” you like this? Or would you rather have them not cross and just deal with it from there?