There was a discussion on Tango-L not too long ago that ties into the thoughts I have been having lately about music. A few people started talking about the choice of music and particular partners:
Skip from San Diego said:
I am one of those who likes to hear the music before deciding whether to dance and selecting a partner, and have sat out many a tanda of music I would love to dance to, because by the time the music started there was no one appropriate left to dance with. It is very common for a good follower to have a cluster of two or three men around her chatting her up (and thereby hoping to get a dance) the moment she gets off the dance floor.
Have you considered dancing with someone “inappropriate”? I think this manner of picking (or trying to pick) the right partner AND the right music is a little silly sometimes… especially since it’s the DJ who picks the music /for/ the dancers. Still, I think a good DJ doesn’t disappoint, in the event that you get a partner first (and relax your expectations a little).
Other people contributed to the conversation, but I am most interested in these two remarks. I tend to feel Skip’s pain – I really like to know what music is going to come on before I agree to dance with someone. As you may have noticed, there are certain ways that I like to dance to certain music. When a vals comes on, I know what faces to scan the room for; when it’s a tango, I tend to be more open to new leaders; when it’s a milonga, I know just who I want – and won’t be as open to anyone else. So it’s frustrating to feel like I have to accept or reject an invitation without knowing what music is about to come on.
Is this silly behavior? I feel like it is completely normal – and preferable! – to try to pick the right partner for the right music. I trust my local DJs (who are fabulous) to provide me with an evening of great music, but that doesn’t mean I will enjoy all of the leaders’ styles paired up at random with that music. What do you think?